Difference Between Ethics of Fantasies and Private Desires with That of The Real World

Introduction

It is no longer shocking to learn that individuals using some identities in cyberspace are not who they claim to be. People eventually say or do things that they would prefer not to in real life. The disinhibition effect that people display is a double-edged sword because, depending on the individual, it can be either a benign or a toxic disinhibition. Based on the provided case scenario, this essay will contrast cyberspace and real-life ethics, examine how private wishes and fantasies differ from real-world ethics, and determine whether couples have an obligation to share their fantasies. Cyberspace and real-life ethics are two distinct entities. Anonymity is one of the differences between the two where the cyberspace users feel invisible, and regular rules cannot apply to them. The second difference between the two is the distance that gives the internet users an illusion that they can do anything they as there are no direct consequences of their misconduct Wallace, 2015). For Jeff in the case scenario, he was able to flirt with other girls and steal the identity of an obscure Romanian actor as he did not see direct consequences to his action on his relationship.

Difference Between Ethics of Fantasies and Private Desires with That of The Real World

Fantasies replace real love and passion acts. Unrealities and private desires may be based on mistakes one aims to amend, gaps they wish to fill and familiarities they become accustomed to. Fantasies are often unconscious, but with time people recognize resulting behaviors and patterns that are destroying their relationships. In themselves, fantasies cause no harm, but the underlying desires are the one that leads to immoral action (Suler, 2017). It is of importance to acknowledge that fantasies, much like symptoms, may not reflect ineffectual needs but rather potent desires. What proves too tricky is differentiating between illusions that serve as warning signs and those that serve as harmless. In short, fantasies in most cases lead to unwanted actions, thus unethical.

Why Couples Are Not Ethically Obliged to Disclose Fantasies and Relation to The Specified Case Scenario

Despite fantasies being contrary to the norm of the real world, it is healthy if they are not shared among the couple. A couple should establish idiosyncratic balance on what fantasies should not be shared. In fact, it would be unethical to share fantasies that would end up shutting the other partner completely (Donahey, 2013). In the case scenario, it was wise for Jeff not to share his fantasies on my Space.com with Magda since as it would shun her entirely keeping in mind, their relationship was in a rut. Managing the fake account had negatively altered their relationship, hence sharing the information about it would have worsened the situation. However, what Jeff was doing when creating and using a fantasy account was withdrawing rather than facing the issues with their relationship and solving it, which is unethical.

Conclusion

In modern society, couples are wrongly using cyberspace which has intern ended up sabotaging their relationship. Cyberspace, unlike the real world, is characterized by anonymity and distance which many do not associate with regular rules and direct consequences. Fantasies, which mostly emanates from the use of cyberspace, are ethically different from real-world situations, and often sabotage a relationship. In the case scenario, Jeff should sit Magda down and discuss, solve and save their relationship rather than withdrawing.

References

Donahey, K. M. (2013). Sexuality and the Internet: Ethics and Regulation. Sex and Internet: A Guide Book for Clinicians, 231.

Suler, J. (2017). Psychoanalytic Cyberpsychology. International Journal of Applied Psychoanalytic Studies, 14(1), 97-102.

Wallace, P. (2015). The psychology of the Internet. Cambridge University Press.