Age does Not Matter in Relationships

Many cultures use the phrase “age is just a number” to dismiss the age of a married partner, and it may be valid. For decades, multiple social structures have been developed around the choice of marriage partners. It’s important to note that most cultures establish rules for their members, such as forcing older men to marry young women. Age is unimportant in partnerships when there are more important things to remember. The maturity of the partner influences how responsible they are in their relationships. A relationship based on the maturity of the partners has very high chances succeeding and yielding satisfaction (Connidis). The love attraction in a relationship since it is the power that binds the partners and keeps them in the relationship. Without love feelings, a relationship is bound to fail since there is nothing keeping the partners locked together. Besides, it is difficult to determine who to fall in love with and intimate feelings for each other does not depend on the age of any of the partners. Therefore, the age of people in a relationship does not matter but maturity, intimate attraction, and chance do.

The maturity of a partner determines their ability to assume responsibilities in a relationship. Older people are considered mature due to experience and exposure but are possible to find a mature young person. Maturity is an indicator of how a partner is prepared to sacrifice to make the relationship a success. The maturity of the mind does not depend on the age of the person since mind and body development does not occur concurrently. It is possible to find a young who is more mature than an older person. Maturity depends on the exposure the person has gone through and the level of experience in handling difficulties (Hertlein, Katherine, and Blumer). A mature partner has clarity of thoughts and the make informed opinions. Maturity partners are serious with their relationships and are always considerate of their significant other while making pertinent decisions. A mature person is dependable and can be entrusted to run the affairs of the relationship. Partners who are considered mature do make solid decisions and do not waiver when their plans fail. Different studies have failed to establish a relationship between the age and maturity of the person. It is more helpful to enter into a relationship with a mature person than an older person who is immature and irresponsible (Hertlein, Katherine, and Blumer). Therefore, choosing a partner in a relationship should not depend on their age but maturity. It is important to understand that maturity various from one person to another across all ages, and some people are more mature than others. Age should not hinder people from getting into a relationship but the maturity of the partners is an important factor to consider.

Love attraction between partners depends on many factors but not age. A person can be attracted to another because of a certain body features or behavior possessed by the significant other. Intimate attraction differs from one person to another and across all ages (Connidis). A young woman can be attracted to an older man while an older woman can be attracted to a young man. Different societies discourage relationship between older women and young men but this does not mean that love attraction between the two groups does not occur. Every society focuses on its continued existence and hence society leaders have developed social constructs to guard relationships and marriage. The emotional feelings that exist between partners in a relationship are not depended on their ages or age difference but depend on how they are attracted to one another. A person cannot determine at which age they will evoke love feelings and get attracted to another. Similarly, a person cannot dictate the time at which they arouse love feelings in another so that they may get into a relationship. Love attraction just happens regardless of the time frames or age of a person. A relationship based on love attraction is likely to last long and provide the partners with the necessary satisfaction (Connidis). Therefore, age should not be a factor to consider when getting into a relationship with a person since the love attraction that exist between the two partners is not dictated by their ages.

Falling in love has no formula or time frame but happens by chance. It is not within the jurisdiction of an individual to determine how to fall in love and with whom to fall in love. It all a matter of chance and one person cannot determine the direction of another’s love (Strong, Brayan, and Cohen). A person can be attracted to another when they are a youth while their partner is an elderly person. People of the same age or having small age difference can fall in love too. An old man can fall in love with a young girl while an old woman can love a young man. Even the society’s social constructs and guidelines are not able to direct how people should fall in love but provide guidance to people who are in a relationship (Strong, Brayan, and Cohen). It can be asserted that the falling in love is determined by divine powers and human beings do not have control over it. People who fall in love the natural way find it to be a fulfilling and enjoyable experience. It is difficult for partners to explain how they fell in love with one another but the most common phrase is that they found themselves in love. Age does not determine how or when people fall in love and get into relationships but it is a matter of chance.

In conclusion, age is not a significant factor to consider when considering the partner with which to enter a relationship. People with huge age gaps have engaged in a relationship and have been successful. The maturity of a partner determines what the partner can contribute in a relationship. A mature partner can be depended upon and is able to make informed decisions that drive the relationship forward. Maturity does not depend on age but on the development of the person’s brain. Intimate attraction is not determined by the age of the person. People get attracted due to many different reasons and a person can fall for another at any age. Love feelings and the unique emotional feelings evoked by love do not depend on the age of a person. A great relationship is built on love attraction and intimate feelings. Mature individuals make the best lovers and dependable marriage partners. People with diverse age gaps can have strong and uncontrollable love feelings for one another. Therefore, age does not dictate the direction love takes and how people get attracted to one another.

Works Cited

Connidis, Ingrid Arnet. “Intimate Relationships.” Age Matters: Re-Aligning Feminist Thinking (2013): 123.

Hertlein, Katherine M., and Markie LC Blumer. The couple and family technology framework: Intimate relationships in a digital age. Routledge, 2013.

Strong, Bryan, and Theodore F. Cohen. The marriage and family experience: Intimate relationships in a changing society. Cengage Learning, 2013.